For many, Father’s Day is a joyful celebration of dads, our relationship with them and all they bring to our lives.

However, for people who have lost their father, or father figure, seeing a media awash with Father’s Day adverts, photographs and tributes can evoke profound feelings of grief and sadness.

We asked our professional counsellors David Faratian and Helen Fry for some advice about how to navigate the day and cope with any unsettling emotions that may arise as a result.

Reminisce and celebrate memories

Take time to reflect on the special moments you shared with your father figure. Look through old photographs, watch home videos, or write down cherished memories. Sharing stories with loved ones can be cathartic and provide comfort.

Create a tribute

Honour your father's memory by creating a tribute on Father's Day. You can light a candle, write a heartfelt letter, or visit a place that held significance to both of you. This act of remembrance can help you feel connected to him and provide a sense of peace.

Reach out for support

Seek support from friends, family, or a support group like CancerCare, which specialise in bereavement services. Connecting with others who have experienced similar losses can offer understanding, empathy, and a sense of community during this challenging time.

Practice self-care

Take care of yourself both emotionally and physically. Engage in activities that bring you comfort and joy, such as exercising, reading, or listening to soothing music. Allow yourself to experience a range of emotions without judgment and be gentle with yourself as you navigate through this difficult day.

Start new traditions

Consider starting new traditions or rituals to honour your father's memory on Father's Day. It could be as simple as preparing his favourite meal, visiting a place he loved, or engaging in an activity that he enjoyed. These new traditions can help create a sense of connection and provide comfort.

Seek solace in others

Spend time with family or friends who understand and share your grief. Sharing stories, laughter, and tears can provide solace and remind you that you are not alone in your feelings. If it feels right for you, consider organizing a small gathering to honour your father's memory and share support with others who may be grieving too.

Father's Day can also be hard for a child whose dad has recently died. When a young person is trying to adjust to a world in which they will not see their father again, occasions like Father's day can be particularly difficult.

Some children might want to avoid all mention of Fathers Day and not acknowledge it at all. However others say it helps if an important adult in their life ,grandparent, family friend, or teacher for example, mentions that its Fathers Day and checks in with how they are doing.

Letting a child or young person know you are willing to talk about their dad and how they are feeling can be one of the most healing and powerful ways to help. Listening is like a superpower! You are letting a child know their feelings are valid and you can bear them.

The child bereavement charity Winstons Wish, has many suggestions and ideas on its website for how to cope with Father's Day. Click here for more info

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